The Meat Life Guide:


By Nick Solares

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Steakhouses are not like other restaurants and New York City steakhouses are not like other steakhouses. They can be intimidating to the novice and baffle even the most seasoned restaurant diner who is unfamiliar with their conventions. This has something to do with how the NYC steakhouse came to be. Here is an insiders guide to navigating the steakhouse's of New York City.

A Brief History Lesson

The first steakhouse in the United States was Delmonico’s (1827). It is considered a steakhouse because of the prevalence of beefsteaks on the menu and because it is credited with creating the Delmonico cut. But it was really more of a fine dining restaurant, both Lobster Newburg and Baked Alaska originated there and Charles Ranhofer, who became chef de cusine in 1862, was arguably America’s first celebrity chef. Delmonico’s is still around today (although it has not seen continuous service having closed for a few years) but it represents a parallel evolutionary branch of the steakhouse genre. The menu at Delmonico's was traditionally heavily French in influence and the dining room, then and now, ornate and filled with plush furniture.

The more common steakhouse aesthetic is much simpler and to the point, springing not from the hospitality industry but from the beefsteak socials of the 19th Century. Beefsteaks were banquet dinners with steak and beer as the organizing principle. These large fraternal gatherings would last for hours on end and the men (women were not welcome) would consume alarming amounts of beef and beer, and nothing else. While this type of dining waned in popularity by the 20th Century it helped spawn the steakhouse as a restaurant. This heritage is one of the reasons why many steakhouses look like banquet halls - dusty, baroque, rooms with wood panelling and vaguely Gothic accents. It also adds an element of ritualization to steakhouse dining.

Peter Luger Steakhouse, founded in 1887, is the prototypical NYC steakhouse. Others may have been around longer — Keen’s dates back to 1885 and the Old Homestead all the way back to 1868 — but none have enjoyed the influence nor the popular acclaim of Luger.  It has inspired a legion of imitators and firmly established the porterhouse steak for two, served sliced and swimming in butter and beef dripping on a sizzling platter, as the quintessential NYC steakhouse steak. For this reason we think it should serve as the starting point for any serious exploration of the NYC steakhouse genre. 


Of course the steakhouse evolved, especially in Manhattan where the 20th Century saw the rise of such notable and surviving steakhouses as Gallagher’s (1921), The Palm (1926), The Bull & Bear (1960)  and Spark’s (1966). By the mid century “Steak Row,” which centered around 45th street, became the epicenter of steak in Manhattan with chophouses such as Pen & Pencil, Joe & Rose’s, The Pressbox and Danny’s Hideaway all serving prime steaks. All have now shuttered. Smith & Wollensky opened in 1977 on the corner of 3rd Avenue and 49th street but the location had previously housed Manny Wolf’s which dated back to 1896. While Smith & Wollesnky, like The Palm, has become a national chain, the original location has always remained independently  operated. Employees of Smith & Wollensky have gone on to found their own steakhouses such as Ben Benson (now shuttered) and Bobby Vann’s, the the Stillman family have gone on to launch the successful Quality Meats brand. 

NYC Steakhouse Timeline




Old Homestead




Peter Luger




The Palm



Prime, Corn Fed Beef


The beef served at a true NYC steakhouse is grain finished USDA Prime beef. This grade of beef comes from steer, which is the male of the species and has the necessary musculature to produce high quality steaks (cows are reserved for dairy production and low grade meat such as commodity hamburger). Prime beef accounts for between two and four percent of all graded beef in the US, making it very expensive. But it isn't just the quality of the beef that sets NYC steakhouses apart, it is what they do with it once they get it.

Dry Aging


The first thing you will notice upon entering Peter Luger is the unmistakably musky aroma of dry aged beef, which wafts up invitingly from the meat locker in the restaurants cavernous basement.  Dry aged prime beef is the hall mark of the NYC steakhouse experience. While most of the world long ago adopted so called “wet aging” - storing beef in plastic bags to tenderize it - true NYC steakhouses do it the old fashioned way - by storing it uncovered in specially constructed rooms and allowing it to become desiccated and for a controlled mold to form. This causes it to become tender through enzymic process and develop complex flavors akin to the wine and cheese are produced. Dry aged beef has pronounced mineral rich notes, it is often described as “earthy,” “nutty”, “steely” and “funky." As it approaches a month in the dry age room it takes on a flavor similar to blue cheese and loses a significant amount of weight due to moisture evaporation. 

Be wary of restaurant menus that refer to the beef as “aged" - technically all beef is aged so you should ask them to clarify whether it is dry or wet aged. Dry aging is a point of pride for many restaurants - Gallaghers on 52nd Street is famous for the meat locker that is on display in the front of the restaurant and is visible from the street. It reveals row upon row of short loins aging majestically. Gallagher’s is the exception however - most dry age rooms are sequestered in the basement and their secrets are closely guarded. 


Because of the loss of weight associated with dry aging beef expect to pay significantly more for such steaks. In an NYC steakhouse dry aged steaks typically range in price from $45-$75 for  steaks for one such as NY strip, rib steak or t-bone. These steak generally weigh 16 - 30oz. Porterhouses, which are always served for two, cost start at $100 for a 45-50oz steak and can rise in price to several multiples of that sum. 


Despite the high prices it is important to note that steakhouses tend to not make much, if any,  profit on selling the steak itself. Tommy Hart, former GM and managing partner of Smith & Wollesnky who has spent almost four decades in the business, explains  “on average restaurants need to operate on a maximum 30% food cost basis. Steakhouses pay around 45-55% food cost for their beef.”  Because of this they need to up-sell you on the sides, appetizers and most importantly, the wine. Of course, at their most successful steakhouses, can be hugely profitable. Spark’s for example pulled in $23 million last year, putting it on Forbe’s Magazine list of Top Grossing Restaurants in America. 


So now that you know the origins of the genre, the type of beef they sell and how they make their money it’s time to visit a steakhouse!

The Dress Code


We feel that it is somewhat unfortunate that steakhouses have no dress codes. While there is an implied “business casual” requirement at most of the Manhattan steakhouses, you will see some rather lax examples even of that low bar. Considering the cost of steakhouse dining we think that gentlemen donning a jacket and tie is wholly appropriate and makes the experience more pleasant for the other diners in the room, especially in the grander, more upscale versions of the genre.


The Gatekeeper


While most restaurants that charge as much as steakhouses do go out of their way to be hospitable, it is sometimes hard not to feel as the steak did before it was steak when securing a table, even with a reservation, at an NYC steakhouses. They tend to be boisterous places with a largely (though certainly not exclusively) male clientele. While the way that the front of house staff manage the waiting area at a steakhouse might seem to be total chaos, it is actually a carefully orchestrated procedure designed to turn over the dining room tables as quickly as possible. At the same time the restaurant needs to make sure that regulars are looked after.


Ryan Edward Yeisley worked the front door at Smith & Wollensky for over a decade and later at the now defunct Prime House NY (he currently works at Oceana) and tells an amusing anecdote about former Mayor Michael Bloomberg that is illustrative of the way things work at a steakhouse. Yeisley was at JG Melons, the popular Upper East Side bar, on his day off waiting for a table. Mayor Bloomberg arrived and was whisked to one immediately. Yeisley quipped about having to wait while “hizzoner” was given preferential treatment. The mayor heard him and retorted “You never make me wait at Smith & Wollensky either!” 


The mayor was right, of course, like any restaurant there are always VIP’s. Yeisley is diplomatic about how a regular or VIP is treated versus a first time customer “We try to make them both happy of course but it is easier to do that when you know the clients tastes and preferences” - the knowledge that comes from familiarity. 


When asked about the practice of bribing the matre’d for a table or tipping them at the end Yeisley confirms that the practice does happen and that palming off $20 or $50 will certainly be appreciated but that it is not at all necessary. In fact the best tip he offered was a simple one “just be nice.”


The Waiter


If you are lucky you will get an old school waiter. Invariably male, gruff and often cantankerous, they will hurl insults and plates of food at you with an assumed familiarity that will make you feel welcome. Don’t take offense at the schtick, it is part of the experience. But at the same time don’t feel pressure to order based on their suggestions as they are often trying to up-sell you. That seemingly off the cuff “seafood towers are popular” remark he throws out will add $120 to your check.  


That said, waiters with experience understand that cynical up selling won’t help generate repeat customers. Shane Finnegan, who has waited tables at Gallagher’s steak house since 1995, will often advise dinners to split sides at the table.


In many cases the waiters are more famous than the chefs at steakhouses. Wolfgang Zwiener,for example, waited tables at Peter Luger for four decades, attaining a cult following and eventually opening his own successful chain of steakhouses called Wolfgang’s, patterned on the Luger model. Similarly, Ben & Jack’s was started by two brothers who also worked at Luger and now operate two Manhattan locations. As was Benjamin Group

How to Order




As stated a  steakhouse makes most of its profits from wine and liquor sales. And thus they often invest heavily and have deep cellars often stocked with rare and expensive labels. The beef, it turns out, is just a ruse to get you in to the restaurant to spend money on grapes. An average steakhouse menu can fit onto a single page where as the corresponding wine list can be as thick as a dictionary. 


That said don’t fall in to “$80-120 trap” there are few bargains in this range because it is the most popular price point. Try going above or below that figure. Don't be afraid, for example, of the cheapest wine on the list, or the house blend, which is often more than drinkable. At the same time a steak dinner is supposed to be an extraordinary meal so splurging on a decent bottle of wine to go with your steak is something that you should embrace. Once you crest that $120 hump you will see much better value for money (even though you will be spending more!)


We also advise to think outside the box by avoiding the most obvious grapes like Cabernet based wine which tend to be the most popular in steakhouses, and also look to to less obvious regions than France and California and instead to a place like Italy where “outside of Amarone and possibly Brunello” most people would not think to look. 




You will generally get seafood of a higher quality in a steakhouse than you will steak in a seafood restaurant. Shrimp cocktail is on almost every steakhouse menu we can recall and Manhattan steakhouses in particular tend to offer large seafood bouquets that tower skyward and will have the same effect on your check. The wedge salad - Iceberg lettuce served with blue cheese dressing is probably the most iconic appetizer, although Luger does not offer it. Luger does offer large slices of onion and tomatoes (year round, let’s not talk about seasonality) along with their famous “steakhouse” sauce (note that it is not called steak sauce). Oysters and slab bacon are also quite popular around town but a word of caution about the bacon - with few exceptions the thick, charred planks served at steakhouses certainly look impressive in comparison to what you might see in your local diner, it is generally the exact same product. In other words it is same commodity pork you can find in your supermarket. 

Our general advice is to skip the appetizers at steakhouses, they only serve to pad the bill and your stomach. It is not that they are never good, they often are, but you are here to eat steak and since they tend to weigh in at a pound or more you should save you appetite for the beef and your money for better bottle of wine.


The Steak


The dry aged steaks served in NYC steakhouses are cut from the rib and short loin “sub primals.” These are the highest quality and most tender cuts on the steer. The steak are generally seared in large gas powered broilers that are adept at searing the steak. There are some exceptions, Gallagher’s steakhouse for example grills over charcoal, but most kitchens have at least one one broiler.


The short loin


The short loin gives us the porterhouse, t-bone, strip loin and tenderloin steaks. 


The porterhouse which contains portions of the strip loin and tenderloin as well as the iconic “t” shaped bone is always sold for two because it would otherwise be vanishingly thin. Because of the size of the steak it is common practice to serve the porterhouse sliced, steaks for one are generally served whole. Peter Luger popularized serving it on a sizzling platter and dousing the steak in a combination of rendered fat and butter.


When given a choice we opt for the porterhouse cut closest to the rib of the short loin, which is where the t-bone begins. This is because the other end contains a portion of the gluteus medious muscle from the sirloin which is not as tender and is separated by a “vein” that can be tough to chew. Because of this the end cut porterhouse or strip loin is sometimes referred to as the “sucker” steak.


The t-bone is less common because a strip loin only yields one or two cuts. It is similar to the porterhouse because it shares both portions of the strip loin and tenderloin but only a small portion of the latter. The fillet on a porterhouse is round while on a t-bone it is triangular in shape because it is the tapered tip of the muscle.


The strip loin or NY strip steak is commonly sold for one, both with or without a bone. We always prefer bone in steaks because they have more flavor as a result of direct exposure to the dry age room. You will sometimes see strip loins listed as a “sirloin” steak, shell steak, or Kansas City strip steak on menus.


The tenderloin, often called the filet mignon, is the most tender cut on the steer but because it does not have significant marbling - intramuscular fat, the fat within the muscle itself - it does not have a lot of flavor. While it is extremely popular, especially in the tourist heavy Midtown steakhouses, we recommend you try the other steaks mentioned above as they are far more flavorful. It should also be noted that unless it is attached to a porterhouse, most fillet are wet, not dry aged. 


Executive chef Joseph Paulino of Uncle Jack’s Steakhouse, which has a two Manhattan locations and a third in Queens, reports that at the midtown restaurant which has a lot of tourist traffic tenderloins account for over half of sales whereas at the other locations the rib steak and porterhouse are the most popular. This is the difference between a tourist clientele and the more educated and in-the-know steak aficionado.


Something else to note: Unless it is attached to a bone (as in a porterhouse or t-bone) tenderloin is never dry aged, further stripping it of potential flavor.  You may also occasionally see Chateaubriand on old school menus - this is a tenderloin for two and again is not commonly dry aged.




The rib section yields the rib steak and the boneless variant the ribeye, also called the Delmonico cut. According to Delmonico’s current executive chef Billy Oliva the Delmonico’s cut at the restaurant was historically the best steak available on a given night, so it might have been a variety of cuts. Indeed, throughout different regions of America Delmonico may refer to either a top sirloin, strip loin or a ribeye. But in NYC, and at Delmonico’s itself, a Delmonico steak is always a ribeye.


While the rib steak and ribeye steak are not traditionally quite as popular on menus as short loin steaks they are considered the steak of choice amongst serious steak eaters. This is because of the spinalis dorsi - the cap -  that surrounds the longissimus muscle, the “eye” that give the ribeye its name. The spinalis is especially flavorful and fibrous and because it lies on the exterior of the chop, is redolent with the flavor of dry aging. If you like the cap we recommend that you ask for steaks cut from the anterior or “chuck end ” of the rib. Note that rib steaks cut from the loin end of the rib section will have almost no spinalis, as the muscle has tapered off completely, and are quite similar, but for the inclusion of the rib bone, to a strip loin steak.


The rib steak and ribeye have gained increasing popularity in recent years in the steakhouses on NYC. Finnegan reports that the cut “has become as popular as the filet and porterhouse,” accounting for a third of sales in recent years at Gallagher’s. 


The whole rib is often roasted whole to make prime rib, a dish whose popularity has waned in recent decades but can be found on many steakhouse menus - Smith & Wollensky, Gallagher’s, The Palm, Empire Steakhouse and Keen’s all offer impressive versions. If your only experience with prime rib is the grey abomination found at weddings, we encourage you to try it in a proper steakhouse.


You will also occasionally see cheaper cuts of beef such as hanger, skirt or steaks cut from the true sirloin (as opposed to the loin, see above), often at lunch. These will be more economical but not nearly as tender or flavorful. To choose such lesser cuts is to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory - you are going to be spending a substantial sum anyway, you may as well get the best that there is. On the other hand chopped steak, which appears on a lot of steakhouse menus, will often be the dry aged trimmings from the more expensive steak on the menu and can be an economical alternative. 


After selecting your cut the only remaining concern becomes temperature.


Medium rare, which is a 130° internal temperature, is the most requested order and the one that most chefs will recommend offers the best flavor experience as the fat will have reached its melting point. There is, of course, an undeniable mystique and machismo associated with ordering steak rare (120°) or even “black and blue” (also know as “Pittsburgh style” or “bleu”) which is an even cooler internal temperature and a charred exterior. This is often reinforced by the old school waiters who will nod approvingly if you correct them when they ask “medium rare?” by opting for rare instead. Order your steak back and blue and they will slap you on the back and commend you verbally. 


But don’t feel you need to please the waiter or that you will gain macho credibility by ordering a steak rarer than you prefer to eat it. You are paying through the nose, your mouth may as well get the most out of it. 


We don't recommend ordering steak at medium (160°) or beyond as it will have lost significant amounts of juice. You may as well save your money and order a cheaper protein. Order a well done tenderloin in a steakhouses and you will end up with the raggedy end cut that will be butterflied lest it ignite during cooking. Steakhouse broilers run hot and are designed to cook steak efficiently to medium rare, anything beyond that and you are asking for lump charcoal.


If you commonly douse your steak in A1 steak sauce and you are visiting an NYC steakhouse and eating dry aged steak for the first time, we implore you to try the steak naked before asking for the condiment. Chances are that they won’t have any, although many do carry their own brand. We have never found a steak sauce that has improved the flavor of a prime, dry aged steak. And don’t be afraid to send back a steak which is not the way you ordered it, just be polite about it.




The practice of serving steaks a la carte dates back to the beefsteaks. Potatoes and vegetables were added almost as an after thought, ostensibly to please the ladies, when the beefsteak morphed in to the steakhouse. As a consequence they tend to be rather unimaginative.  Creamed spinach and hash brown potatoes are the most common sides and many places sold nothing else for decades. These days the canon has been broadened - asparagus, mac and cheese, French fries and Brussels sprouts are all popular but first timers should go old school and stick with spinach and hash browns.




Cheesecake is the quintessential NYC steakhouse dessert. Peter Luger is also known for their Schlag - a thick, sweetened whipped cream - that is either dolloped atop of cheesecake or ordered by the bowlful. There are other standouts - the toffee sundae at Keen’s is legendary and the coconut cake at Smith & Wollensky (the first steakhouse to employ a full time pastry chef) has inspired many imitators. However, most steakhouse desserts are fairly pedestrian - expect a lot of powered sugar, chocolate sauce and sprigs of mint to decorate most everything. Again, they all pad your bill, expect to pay an average of $10 per dessert. 


Coffee is usually pretty dreadful in steakhouses. But that might be true of restaurants in general. On the other hand the after dinner drinks can be quite interesting, but watch the prices - that port the waiter casually offers you could add $40 to your check.


The check


The check will generally be hefty, especially if you splurged on wine. Doubling the tax for the tip  is standard although 20% or even more is quite common according to Hart (and very much appreciated!) Steakhouse waiters, especially in the more tourist heavy areas, are not shy about informing patrons they suspect are foreign that “service is NOT included.” You should let your conscience  guide you here. And tipping the maitre’d on the way out will likely help you on the way in the next time. Regulars will of course develop personal relationships with the staff and it is not uncommon for them to actually request service by a specific waiter. Thus is the clubby nature of the steakhouse.